Hey, I’m Amy
Virgo, Salsa Dancer, Dog Lover, Nature Lover & Personal Development Book Addict
Advocate for embracing our humanness & prioritising what’s really important…
Whilst other coaches out there are pushing you to be more and do more and live your best shiniest instagrammable worthy life – I’m over here advocating for you to press pause, take a breath and give yourself permission to be human.
I specialise in helping the over-functioners, people pleasers and perfectionists (yes you over there with the impossibly high standards for yourself), to let go of the pressure of trying to be everything to everyone and do it perfectly with a kind of Stepford housewife slightly crazed smile on your face!
You see I’ve had the shiny-looking life that ‘should’ have made me happy, and I blew it all up for something that outwardly may look a little…less perfect…but that fits me so much better. I’m not advocating blowing your life up by the way, it wasn’t fun or pretty! Thankfully I learned the hard way so you don’t have to…
My point is that none of us are getting out of here alive so we may as well try and make the most of the time we have right?! And that means stopping running yourself ragged trying to do all the things and keeping everyone else happy.
If all of your energy is directed outward towards meeting everyone else’s needs and you are doing diddly squat to replenish said energy or reduce the demand, you’re metaphorically speeding along the motorway heading towards burnout (I’ve been there more than once and I can assure you it’s not a fun place to be).
So if life feels like you are wading through treacle, or as one of my clients put it, like you’re dragging around a huge anchor, then this is a good sign something needs to shift.
That’s where I come in!
As I said, I have been in your shoes, dragging myself through life, searching for the light. I’ve been miserable, stuck, lost, unfulfilled, stressed, anxious, depressed, angry and utterly disconnected from myself and the people around me (although I probably didn’t realise this back then).
I was trying so hard to stuff down my feelings and put my ‘I’m fine’ mask on that I didn’t know who I was, how I felt or what I wanted anymore.
But it doesn’t have to be that way…
Contrary to popular belief we don’t have unlimited time, energy or capacity and this is why it’s my mission to empower you to prioritise your well-being and liberate yourself from that anchor you’re dragging around!
Let me show you how to reconnect with yourself and create a life that actually feels good.
Overfunctioning – a personal story…
The big black wave engulfs my whole body. It contracts, bracing itself for the whispers of judgement and looks of pity. I want to run and hide but the heaviness drags me down.
My cheeks are hot, my shoulders rounded, my head hung, a tear slips slowly down my cheek to my mouth, the salty wetness settling on my lips. It feels all-encompassing. So many thoughts dancing around my mind, I’m not sure what to say or do next.
What will people think? What will my husband say? He doesn’t need a broken wife on top of everything else we have going on. What about my team? I’m letting down all of the people who rely on me.
The silence seems to go on forever. I can hear the clock loudly tick, tock, tick, tocking away. My mouth is dry. I just want the ground to open up and swallow me so I don’t have to deal with what comes next.
The crisp fresh air hits the dampness of tears involuntarily leaking from my eyes. In the safety of my car, I finally let my emotions wash over me like a torrential downpour of rain from the sky.
“The HR lady from work has told me I have to come and see you,” I say to my Doctor like a petulant teenager. She is so warm and nurturing, sensing the reinforced wall I have built around myself as protection.
Slowly she teases out the details of the myriad of ‘things’ that have led me to be sitting here. “You’re burnt out,” she says, “and I’m not surprised given everything you’ve got going on.”
My mask slips from my hands and shatters like a mirror all over the floor. I have no idea how I’m going to unpick this mess but one thing is for sure, I can’t go on like this…
TL;DR – About Amy
- Animal and nature lover.
- Sociable introvert.
- Salsa dancer
- Red wine or tea…..occasionally some water!
- Homebody who loves adventures.
- Creative, curious people person.
- Love to learn.
- Warmth, be it from other human beings, roaring fires or bright sunshine.
- Values: Well-being, Curiosity, Connection, Growth, Kindness, and Making a Difference.
- Superpowers: Making the complex simple, Unscrambling messy heads and putting people at ease.
My Credentials
- Qualified ICF-accredited transformational coach with over 600hrs of 1:1 coaching experience.
- Member of the Association for Coaching (MAC)
- Accredited certificates in Emotional Intelligence, Positive Psychology, Work-Life Balance Coaching, Confidence Coaching, Group Coaching and Facilitation and Trauma, The Brain & Recovery.
- Fully insured, DBS, and ICO certified.
- Certified to use the DISC Personal Assessment tool, which helps develop greater self-awareness, improve communication and build better relationships.
- 20+ years experience in people and project management positions in large organisations.
“I believe deep in my heart that life is easier when we find the courage to be true to ourselves, and this for me, is real freedom”